Good for you, Dan, to realize the growing importance and influence of your son's peer group.  That phenomenon is called "the gradual release of parental responsibility". As your influence wanes it will  be partially replaced by kids who didn't have the benefit of having Dan and Mrs. Dan to instill values, norms, and expectations. It only takes one kid in the neighborhood with unlimited internet access and then... My childhood of having a Playboy magazine under the mattress seems so innocent, because it largely was! As for as what advice to offer you, have you considered going Amish? Retreating to the deep woods? Homeschooling? Banding together with likeminded parents who all sign on to the no phones, no social media, no internet (or some variation of them)? Jonathan Haidt, who knows the subject better than anyone I've read, refers to it as a collective action problem. I don't envy any new or future parents. I do believe that your son will navigate the social and emotional challenges far better than his peers because I know the kind of person who you are Dan. So...fear not, stay vigilant, maintain the lines of open communication and a united parental front...just keep doing all the nurturing, wonderful things that you have been doing for these last 9 years, and no doubt during the pregnancy too! And HBD to Finn! Lastly, unlike a certain Dane who I won't deign to name, I thought the above song that you posted was quite good!

Peter T.