Just a note from one of the very few females on this board - I was very moved by your post - I hope you don't mind that I'm responding to it.
Glad to hear that even though you've been thrown more hard punches than I can count, that you're dealing with it. The best thing I can say is to remember what is in your control and what is not. You can only change those things you can control. Since you mentioned your brother first...You cannot control his behavior. Ask your dad, brother, or good friend if they'd be willing to step in for him in case he doesn't show - that may help your stress level. (Have them already dressed like the wedding party - if your brother shows and is sober, just have your "backup" be an usher). And remember, your wedding day should be about you and your wife - not your brother. (I had a similar situation - in my case the family member was not invited as they could not stay sober - it was the first time a family wedding had not centered on whether or not this person would interrupt the service, fall down the stairs, start a fistfight, you name it.)
Also, you can think of your wedding day as the "official" end of this string of bad luck. I know it sounds a little "psychobabble-ish", but hey, it can't hurt. (Besides, all losing streaks have to end sometime, they can't all last '15 long years' can they?)
Anyway, I'm sorry if I came off as a know-it-all Dear Abby on weddings. I didn't mean to overstep my bounds. Enjoy your wedding day, take a well-deserved break/honeymoon, and send us a post every now and then. -Cheryl
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Just a note from one of the very few females on this board - I was very moved by your post - I hope you don't mind that I'm responding to it.
Glad to hear that even though you've been thrown more hard punches than I can count, that you're dealing with it. The best thing I can say is to remember what is in your control and what is not. You can only change those things you can control. Since you mentioned your brother first...You cannot control his behavior. Ask your dad, brother, or good friend if they'd be willing to step in for him in case he doesn't show - that may help your stress level. (Have them already dressed like the wedding party - if your brother shows and is sober, just have your "backup" be an usher). And remember, your wedding day should be about you and your wife - not your brother. (I had a similar situation - in my case the family member was not invited as they could not stay sober - it was the first time a family wedding had not centered on whether or not this person would interrupt the service, fall down the stairs, start a fistfight, you name it.)
Also, you can think of your wedding day as the "official" end of this string of bad luck. I know it sounds a little "psychobabble-ish", but hey, it can't hurt. (Besides, all losing streaks have to end sometime, they can't all last '15 long years' can they?)
Anyway, I'm sorry if I came off as a know-it-all Dear Abby on weddings. I didn't mean to overstep my bounds. Enjoy your wedding day, take a well-deserved break/honeymoon, and send us a post every now and then. -Cheryl
Glad to hear that even though you've been thrown more hard punches than I can count, that you're dealing with it. The best thing I can say is to remember what is in your control and what is not. You can only change those things you can control. Since you mentioned your brother first...You cannot control his behavior. Ask your dad, brother, or good friend if they'd be willing to step in for him in case he doesn't show - that may help your stress level. (Have them already dressed like the wedding party - if your brother shows and is sober, just have your "backup" be an usher). And remember, your wedding day should be about you and your wife - not your brother. (I had a similar situation - in my case the family member was not invited as they could not stay sober - it was the first time a family wedding had not centered on whether or not this person would interrupt the service, fall down the stairs, start a fistfight, you name it.)
Also, you can think of your wedding day as the "official" end of this string of bad luck. I know it sounds a little "psychobabble-ish", but hey, it can't hurt. (Besides, all losing streaks have to end sometime, they can't all last '15 long years' can they?)
Anyway, I'm sorry if I came off as a know-it-all Dear Abby on weddings. I didn't mean to overstep my bounds. Enjoy your wedding day, take a well-deserved break/honeymoon, and send us a post every now and then. -Cheryl
