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So the Abortion topic has spurred another thought in me.

My sister & I are both adopted. We are both pro-choice.

Just curious, I know that  PRH & Kathryn  have said they were adopted. Anyone else??

And in a very general sense what has that meant in your lives.

For me, finding out I was adopted was probably the most liberating day of my life. I have 2 very warm and loving parents, there is little I was left wanting for as a child. But my parents are very safe ,white, quiet suburban folks. Probably very much like the way they pictured parents in the fifties. (You know the drawing, dad sits in his chair smoking his pipe, while mom and the kids gather around to here about dad's day at the office. Ozzie and Harriet type stuff).

Anyway they are way less personable than I am (Nice, just not terribly outgoing or artistic) . The discovery of my adoption was quite by accident, and my parents felt that at age 12 they had to work extra hard to reprove their love. But for me I finally realized that I was free to be the person I felt I was inside. That idea of me, the one that didn't exactly gel with my parents personalities and  all of a sudden I was free to be the outgoing, funny free spirit that I felt I really was/am .

My sister, on the other hand, still has some issues with the situation. Somehow she has it in her head that there is some shame in adoption. We have talked about it but I can't figure where that came from.

My life has been good to the point that I do not feel any overwhelming urge to find my birth parents. Apart from as couple of basic searches on the internet I have never followed through on that.

I have always thought of learning of my adoption as an important point in my life because it came at such a critical junction of my personal development.

My wife and I have our one daughter and even though we said only one kid, we have talked about a second or even tossed out the idea of looking into adoption. So maybe for me the story isn't completely over. We'll see.

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“Stupidity has a certain charm - ignorance does not” - Zappa - Yeah you know who you are.
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